A good idea.---USA MADE

I received this from my cousin, and I'm challenging myself to really pay attention this month. We'll see what happens!
It only makes sense to try!

> > I am
> > really going to start doing this.  Proprietors should
> > start posting signs to promote USA made
> > products…
> >
> >
> >
> >
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> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Check this
> > out. I can Verify this because I was in Lowes the other day
> > for some reason and just for the heck of it I was looking at
> > the hose attachments.  They were all made in China. The
> > next day I was in Ace Hardware and just for the heck of it I
> > checked the hose attachments there. They were made in USA.
> > Start Looking.
> >
> > In our
> > current economic situation, every little thing we buy or do
> > affects someone else - even their job.
> >
> > So, after reading this email, I think this lady is on the
> > right
> > Track.. Let's get behind her!
> >
> > Subject: A good idea.
> >
> > My grandson likes Hershey's candy. I noticed,
> > Though, that it is marked made in Mexico now.. I do not buy
> > it any more.
> >
> > My favorite toothpaste Colgate is made in Mexico now. I
> > Have switched to Crest. You have to read the labels on
> > Everything.
> >
> > This past weekend I was at Kroger. I needed 60 W light
> > bulbs and Bounce Dryer sheets. I was in the light bulb
> > aisle,
> > And right next to the GE brand I normally buy was an off
> > brand labeled, "Everyday Value." I picked up both
> > types of bulbs and compared the Stats - they were the
> > Same except for the price. The GE bulbs were
> > More money than the Everyday Value brand but the thing that
> > surprised me the most was the
> > Fact that GE was made in MEXICO and the
> > Everyday Value brand was made in - get ready for this - the
> > USA in a Company in Cleveland, Ohio.
> >
> > So throw out the myth that you cannot find products you use
> > every day that are made right here.
> >
> > So on to another aisle - Bounce Dryer sheets.....yep, you
> > guessed it, Bounce cost more money and is made in Canada.
> > The Everyday Value brand was less money and MADE IN THE
> > USA! I did laundry yesterday and the dryer sheets performed
> > just like the Bounce Free I have been using for
> > Years and at almost half the price!
> >
> > So my challenge to you is to start reading the
> > Labels when you shop for everyday things and see what you
> > can find that is made in the USA -
> >
> > The job you save may be your own or your neighbors!
> >
> > If you accept the challenge, pass this on to
> > Others in your address book so we can all start buying
> > American, one
> >
> > light bulb at a time! Stop buying from overseas Companies!
> >
> > (We should have awakened a decade ago.......)
> >
> > Let's get with the program.... Help our fellow
> > Americans keep their jobs and create more jobs here in the
> > U.S.A.       Pass this along
> > !
> >  
> >  
> >
> >

An anniversary of sorts...

...just not the kind worth celebrating! I am forewarning anyone that is reading this that this will probably turn into a rambling post as it is that kind of night!

It has officially been more than one year since we began this journey. When we got on this rollercoaster, we would have thought that we would be home playint with our nearly 1yr old child right now. Instead, I am trying to develop some perspective on something that just seems so unreal. The thing that only those of living this nightmare can understand is that is not the hours spent or the mounds of paperwork that we compiled, or even the thousands of dollars in checks that we wrote that is the most frustrating. The hardest part of this is the lack of understanding and grieving the loss of a dream. Anyone that knows me, knows that I am not much of a dreamer, but more of a realist. Being a realist and all, I had thought that I had carefully guarded my emotions; we told very few people, kept up on the latest government revelations and remained cautiously optimistic. I obviously did not do a good enough job of guarding these feelings because I am crushed! I am so tired...tired of hoping, tired of being in constant limbo, tired of the uknowns, tired of crying, tired of the questions that have no answers...just mentally and emotionally tired.

On the upside, this process is a test and can only make you stronger as a person(although I think I am now sufficently strong enough!) This rollercoaster ride has allowed me to meet some amazing women, has tested my faith, tested my strength and tested my patience. I think that Dana and I continue to pass these tests with flying colors as we wait for the next chapter...time will tell!

As always, keep us in your thoughts

The US report

As we mentioned earlier there is a report issued by the US government explaining their findings and why they believe the VN program needs to be closed. VN is denying these allegations. We have to remember that there are always extreme instances of corruption (in every country), which none of us want to be a part of, however, these cases are not indicative of all adoptions in VN.

Its getting some attention

Many families have been working to get the status of the VN adoptions publicized. Here is a link of a family in MN that has done just that. There is the printed article and then on the right hand side, please run the video the waiting adoptive parents.

Trying to let it all sink in

As Dana wrote yesterday, we have had some very difficult news over the weekend. For those of you that are interested, I'll get the links updated in the next day or so - then you can read the infamous report and official statements.

Today I went to work with puffy, bloodshot eyes after a very very long weekend! Normally, I am not an internet person, but there were two things that have made this weekend bearable...Dana and the PAP friends online. Family is amazing, but there are some things that only those that are going through this can fully grasp. Ironically, I have been reading a book"this is not the life that I ordered"! Right now it is really hard to talk about because I don't have an answer for the inevitable question of "what now?". We don't know what now, other than to grieve for something you wanted so badly but cannot fully make sense of why you cannot have it.

So onto my evening, deciding I had enough of the puffy red eyes, I decided that tonight was going to be about realizing how much we do have. I spent a couple hours in a lower income neighborhood, observing and doing random deeds such as purchasing people's groceries. I will admit this was selfish because doing these random acts of kindness was more fun than I have had in a very long time! So I know that while we don't have everything we want and have experienced a very big loss that I don't know if I will ever full recover from, I do know that Dana and I do have a lot and are very lucky in alot of ways. Long story short, if you are depressed, doing these random acts of kindness is the best medicine I have found to date!!

I will ask that you keep us and the hundreds of VN adoptive families in your thoughts and there are alot of us trying to figure out "what next??"

Not Good News from Vietnam

It is with a heavy heart that I write that Kara and I's Vietnam adoption adventure is quickly grinding to a standstill. Today Vietnam announced that there will be no renewal of the agreement with the US and that no referrals will be made after July 1st.

This basically means that given where Kara and I are in the process we have no chance of adopting any time soon. It could be years before Vietnam and the US work out another agreement. We feel very caught between squabbling governments. It is like we are drifting around in a sea of circumstances beyond our control. We keep looking around for some sense of direction, but the only thing we can find is eachother.

We try to tell ourselves that this is all in the best interests of the vietnamese children and families to make sure there is no corruption going on. But at the same time there are still 2 million orphans in Vietnam and they ARE being adopted by citizens of other countries - just not the USA. So much for the moral imperative.

As I've been touted as the eternal optimist, I've been trying to think of something uplifting to say. We will keep our heads high, adapt to our new circumstances, and continue our adoption journey...

To dream ... the impossible dream ...
To fight ... the unbeatable foe ...
To bear ... with unbearable sorrow ...
To run ... where the brave dare not go ...
To right ... the unrightable wrong ...
To love ... pure and chaste from afar ...
To try ... when your arms are too weary ...
To reach ... the unreachable star ...

This is my quest, to follow that star ...
No matter how hopeless, no matter how far ...
To fight for the right, without question or pause ...
To be willing to march into Hell, for a Heavenly cause ...

And I know if I'll only be true, to this glorious quest,
That my heart will lie will lie peaceful and calm,
when I'm laid to my rest ...
And the world will be better for this:
That one man, scorned and covered with scars,
Still strove, with his last ounce of courage,
To reach ... the unreachable star ...

Everyone Needs an Optimist

There is so much uncertainty withing the VN adoption world right now. The 1-600 approval process is taking much longer than it is supposed to and the referrals have all but come to a screeching halt. For awhile we were seeing our agency place at least a few children a month and now there has been no activity since last summer/fall. We used to wonder when, now we wonder if.

From the United States Government:
"Discussions about revision and renewal of the Agreement are a priority for both governments, but there is no certainty a new Agreement will be in place on September 1. In view of the processing time required in Vietnam from placement to the Giving and Receiving Ceremony, an adoption process begun now cannot be completed before the current Agreement expires. We do not know whether the Government of Vietnam will continue to process pending cases if the current Agreement expires before a new Agreement takes effect. Moreover, given concerns about the existing level of protection for children in Vietnam, it is unlikely that the Agreement can be renewed in its current form.


I try to hold on to any small piece of information that could be positive. We learned today that VN may not honor all of us that have dossiers in Vietnam if the agreement between VN and the US expires. I am forever grateful that I married an optimist. Dana is an optimist to the core and I have never appreciated that as much as I do lately. Still the constant unknowns are heart wrenching. The only way that I can explain this situatino to those that aren't in the adoption circle is that I would guess this is like being permanently in your first trimester of a pregnancy....walking that fine line between being so excited and being terrified that something could go wrong.

So for now, we have no idea how this journey is going to end. I can only be thankful that I have Dana's optimism to feed off of. But I know it wouldn't hurt for everyone to keep all of us that are in this crazy world of unknowns in your thoughts!